Why I Won't Just Tell You What to Do - From a Therapist & Personal Trainer

I often find myself in conversations where people ask questions that seem to imply there's a clear right or wrong answer. But from my perspective, most answers are a bit more nuanced and depend on a variety of factors. When I respond with, "it depends," I sometimes notice that the person asking feels frustrated or unsatisfied with my answer. This reaction encourages me to dig a little deeper, asking more questions to better understand their viewpoint and to help them think critically about their own situations.

In my roles as both a psychotherapist and a personal trainer, I truly believe that my purpose goes beyond providing concrete answers. I’m here to help you discover what approaches or solutions resonate best with you. This is a collaborative process. After all, it would be a bit presumptuous of me to think I understand your life experiences better than you do ~ you’ve lived through those moments and shaped your own reality!

My approach is all about equipping you with a variety of tools and strategies that empower you to uncover the answers that lie within yourself. While I may offer suggestions, they’re really just meant to spark ideas and get the brainstorming process flowing. My role isn’t to dictate your path but to guide you in exploring the options available to you, fostering a sense of autonomy in your decision-making.

So, I won’t just tell you what to do. This journey is about you exploring and understanding yourself through introspection and honesty. In today’s fast-paced world, many of us get caught up in our daily routines and forget to take the time to reflect on what we truly want or who we genuinely are. I can certainly relate to that! My hope is to provide you with a toolkit of ideas and strategies that empower you to create your own personalized plan. That way, when life throws changes or challenges your way, you’ll have the skills to adapt and maybe even discover an entirely new approach.

My ultimate goal is for you to reach a level of independence where you no longer feel the need to rely on my guidance. This aspiration is at the heart of my mission for everyone I have the privilege to work with. While I’ll always be here if you need support, my aim is to empower you to navigate your journey on your own.

Once you unlock this capability within yourself for the first time, you’ll realize that you have the strength and wisdom to forge your own path. This realization will boost your confidence in many areas of your life. So, if you choose to come back after achieving this independence, it will be out of a desire for further growth and exploration, rather than out of dependence.

Together in wellness,

Nic